By Christian Gollayan. March 8, pm ated March 9, am. In March , Cady Patterson was devastated when her year-old husband, Jordan Lewis, died after a three-year battle with sinus cancer. My heart is torn. Over three days, they bonded in their grief as Jonathan, now 28, took the women sailing and out to the best restaurants in town. The two started talking on the phone every week and regularly texting. A month into their new friendship, Jonathan realized he had romantic feelings for Cady.
In MarchCady Patterson was devastated when her year-old husband, Jordan Lewis, died after a three-year battle with sinus cancer.
My heart is torn. Over three days, they bonded in their grief as Jonathan, now 28, took the women sailing and out to the best restaurants in town. The two started talking on the phone every week and regularly texting.
A month into their new friendship, Jonathan realized he had romantic feelings for Cady. Today, experts say such relationships are more common than many realize. After the death of a loved one, their spouse is often drawn to their best friend or sibling.
That was certainly the case for Jonathan and Cady. He confessed his true feelings. Cady said that she felt the same way but needed to take it slow.
In Aprilhe asked Cady to marry him. In August, they were married in Tulsa, Okla. Widow Bethany Hunter can relate. Ina year after her first husband, Christopher Lyons, was killed in Iraq, she married his best friend and squad leader, Jeff Hunter. When other military folk learned of their relationship, she was the subject of gossip at the annual Marine ball. The couple now live in Albuquerque, NM, where Jeff works as a sheriff.
They have four kids, including Ella and a son named Atticus Christopher, in honor of their dearly departed loved one. And we talk about it.
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Jun 16, i'm a married man and my best pal died and left his widow to my care,my wife of 30 years is ok with it,i always take my 23 year old son with me when I visit her,she has shown signs of wanting to be close to me,i'm very uncomfortable around her,she comes up and smells me and tries to be close me,very unnerving,as a man of the world and I have. In , a year after her first husband, Christopher Lyons, was killed in Iraq, she married his best friend and squad leader, Jeff Hunter. Jeff Hunter (wearing goggles) and Christopher Lyons in. I honestly wouldn't. I don't view people as property, and the reason I say that is because people feel entitled to dating others. We see this all the time in dating culture. "I called dibs on her first!" "I liked her before you did!" And so on and.
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Email required. Is this really creepy or is this ok? I have talked to my kids and they like the idea but just not sure what society will think. Who cares what society thinks, for heaven's sake?!
The only opinions that matter here are yours, his and your children's and you have approval in all those. Besides anyone who would criticize you for finding happiness with such a nice man must be a jealous, hateful monster.
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I would bet even your husband's parents would approve. You're not doing anything wrong, as long as you two never had anything illicit, even at just the interest level, while your husband was alive and well.
Could that be where your guilt is coming from? But even if interest started building while your husband was very sick and dying, it's fine.
It's not like you wished him death. If you guys started romantic interest when your husband was terminal or had passed away, go for it. Friends make the best partners.
It is truly ok. Maybe your husband is looking down upon you and he is sending his best friend to you, to comfort you and keep you safe. Everything that is happening in your life right now is suppose to be happening.
Enjoy it and move forward in your life. You will never forget your husband and all the wonderful memories you shared.
Jan 18, How I Started Dating My Best Friend's Widow. One of her closest friends arranged the trip as a getaway for her. I happened to be staying there before I moved to Minneapolis for seminary. She got out of the car with a massive suitcase to give clothes to me, as a way to honor husband's close friend. Looking back, this is a visual of. I was best friends (incredibly close, saw each other all the time and talked constantly- more like sisters) with an incredible girl named "Lynn" from sixth grade up until she took her life in our senior year of high school which was She dated a man named "John" during middle/high school for about three years or so. Jun 14, My husband had cancer for four years and passed away May 8. We were married for 17 years and have two kids. During the weeks after his death his best friend was around so much to support myself and the kids and now we have started dating and have very strong feelings for each other. Is this really creepy or is this ok? I have talked to my kids and they like .
Good luck to you and I am very sorry for your loss. If you always wonder what society thinks, you may have a very boring journey through life. Just Live.
As long is its nothing like the movie "Ghost", That was creepy But this is a new beginning