It was a year after college, and the person asking me that was a guy I had just started casually dating. He actually was a couple inches taller than me, but the question caught me off guard. It was as if he had peeped in on my mental conversation earlier that afternoon, when I was debating whether I should wear wedges or flats. Years before this, I went to an all-female high school, which meant that if there were going to be boys present at a dance, we had to invite them. I distinctly remember brainstorming who I was going to invite to my first dance as a freshman. Sure, Mark was my buddy from childhood-we talked on AIM all the time. He was cute, friendly, funny, and pretty much the ideal first-dance date candidate except for one thing: He was a couple inches shorter than me.
If you are attracted by the official uniform and find police officers attractive, then you must know that a relationship with one is slightly different than a normal one. Dating a cop may seem easy, but before you hit the road together, you should know a thing or two:. Usually, the uniform comes together with 2 sets of handcuffs, a bulletproof vest and a gun. He might want to stay a little longer and to admire police cars or other officers and uniforms. Fighting crime is not a fixed schedule job, so you should expect sudden meetings or emergencies appearing and ruining your plans for the night.
Putting in more effort than the other person is a common problem in relationships. And in a way, it's a good problem to be giving too much in a relationship - it shows that you're a caring person who wants to put yourself out for other people. But the issue comes when being a giving person leaves you in a one-sided relationship. Often we give to our partners in the exact way that we want them to give to us. Rather than follow their cues we assume that they have the same needs as we ourselves do. I've watched so many friends think that they can change someone by just giving and giving - and I've done the same. But it rarely works.